Jul 10, 2013

30 Things You Love About Yourself

Challenge: 30 Things You Love About Yourself

Oooooh does the title scare you? I hope it does... but only a little!

For the last year and a half I have been actively learning about the vital necessity of self-love and how to develop a healthy body and self-image.

I admit, some days it is still difficult to look in the mirror and like the person I see looking back. But the difference is now I know how to handle myself when that happens and I know what I need to make myself feel better, safer, happier, more positive etc..

One of the things I like to do to help myself keep in a positive mindset about myself is to write a list of 30 things I love about myself and stick the list on my wall for a month. The next month I'll rewrite a new list.

As a part of living vibrant, you gotta do some bold stuff and this challenge is a small but bold and significant step for us. But don't freak just yet, I'll go first so you're not doing it by yourself! :P

 

30 Things I Love About Myself

  1. I have a contagious laugh
  2. LOVE my big beautiful brown eyes
  3. (1st stump, haha!) My long silky wavy hair
  4. My playfulness and that I can see fun in a lot of things
  5. My gorgeous curves
  6. (2nd stump, dammit!) How much I care for my friends
  7. My obsession with finding the magic in life
  8. My super enthusiasm and excitement
  9. I love my perfectly straight teeth :D
  10. And that smile - lights up the world it does
  11. My nose can jump in there too, proud of that puppy
  12. I love my OCD to organize and decorate
  13. LOVE my crafty DIY nature (and my sparkly colored pen collection)
  14. (3rd stump, not bad!) I can dance like a MOFO
  15. My self taught web design skills
  16. Love my personal style and fashion sense
  17. I give GREAT advice when friends are in need
  18. I'm a damn good girlfriend
  19. A freakin' awesome daughter
  20. Punctuality for the things I care about! ;)
  21. My AMAZING talent and skill as an actor
  22. My super SMART BRAIN that has been cramming 5 years of info into 1!
  23. (4th stump, better!) The classic 'Elise' facial expressions
  24. My humor and comedic timing (even though I never knew I was funny)
  25. My secret love of dance movies *coughstepupcough*
  26. How emotionally expressive I am
  27. My fantastic and wide taste in music - from Ray Charles to Ed Sheeran
  28. My sweet writing skills
  29. My strong values
  30. The ability to see the positive and keep optimistic

Phew! 4 stumps, not bad I say!

Now it's your turn! This is your bold moment, in the comments below I want you to tell me 30 things you love about yourself! I know you can do it & I'm dying to see what you love!

Ready? Go!

Be Good To Yourself!

Jul 8, 2013

Honest Talk Sunday: How are the next 5 years going to play out for you?


How are the next 5 years going to play out for you?

In all honesty, I can tell that these next 5 years are going to be the most transformational in all areas of my life.

I see a lot of travel happening that is both work and life related, as well as a career in travel unfolding veeeery nicely.

I see this online space growing enormously to the point where we (you and I) have built a wonderful relationship and community together as well as it becoming a very profitable micro biz.

In terms of where I'll be, I 100% see myself living on the beachfront in a beautiful modern beach house with Scott (and yes, it's a high possibility I'll be married!)

I will also be my healthiest and fittest and will have built new nourishing relationships with wonderful people who are incredibly like-minded.

To put it simply, the next 5 years is going to be AWESOME. Lots of positive changes as well as big scary challenges that are great for me in the long run.

After the last couple of years having broken down, slowly built myself back up and used that time to build a solid foundation for myself, I can 100% say I am right where I need to be.

I believe that good things are happening for me, I believe that I will achieve every single thing I really want to achieve and I believe with all my being that I can create for myself the kind of life I want.

Now tell me about you m'lovely! How do you believe the next 5 years are going to play out for you?

Jun 23, 2013

What are your views on cheating & affairs?

What are your views on cheating & affairs?

Could you do it?

Would the guilt eat you alive?

What if he did it?

Would you ever trust him again?

That's my biggest concern here.

Love, and even forgiveness can be won back. But trust? That is something that takes years to build - and only moments to obliterate.

How could you carry on being with someone whom you love, yes. Whom you have forgiven, yes. But who you do not trust?

The anxiety. The isolation. The guilt you would feel.

I couldn't continue on like that. Always on edge. I'd have to end it.


What about you? What are your views on cheating and affairs? Are you a forgiver or an ass-kicker?

xo

Jun 21, 2013

How to Wake Up Earlier (instead of leaving it to the last minute)


Back in my 9-to-5 days, my morning routine would look like this:
  • Alarm rings
  • Snooze button
  • Alarm rings again
  • Snooze button
  • Alarm rings yet again & I realize I have 5 minutes to be out the door
  • Frantic acrobatics, out of bed
  • Skip breakfast, skip shower
  • Barely get enough make up on
  • Out the door
  • Rush, rush, rush to work
It's safe to say I was not leading an intrepid lifestyle! More like a frantic, stressed out and malnourished lifestyle!

Are you frantically rushing out the door every morning without breakfast? Are you always five minutes late to work? Have you tried to create a new habit of waking up earlier by using affirmations and positive thoughts without any improvement? It's no wonder you're tired and fatigued every day! You're going about this from the wrong angle.

How you do your mornings is how you do life. Your morning state is what sets you up for the day, if you're frantic & stressed, you bring that energy into your day. But if you're well rested and relaxed, your day is gonna go a whole lot different!

When I realized I was NOT setting up my daily zen very well, I knew the best approach was to be gentle and slowly develop the habit of getting up earlier over a few weeks. Here's how you can do it too.

How to Wake Up Earlier

  1. Set your alarm every day for the ideal time you'd like to get up. So say work starts at 9:30am and you'd like at least an hour and a half to get ready, set it for 7:30am.

  2. Then let the alarm go off in the morning, BUT, don't get up. Chances are your mind will be like 'WTF!?' and you'll just hit snooze and that's fine.

  3. Keep doing that every morning. What this does is it's training your mind and your body to switch on at 7:30am even if you don't get up.

  4. After some time (maybe a week, two or even a month!) you will naturally start waking around the time your alarm goes off and slowly you'll start finding you have energy to get up at that time. 

  5. Create a 'Christmas morning equivalent' incentive to get up. This is my favourite part! Once your mind has caught up and knows when to wake, you can give it an extra boost by creating that excitement of christmas morning. What's something fun you can put into your schedule before work? Maybe it's a fabulously hot shower, a delicious gourmet coffee, an exciting book you're obsessed with atm, green smoothie, yoga, a quick walk to your fave cafe, a hot outfit, a hot boy? :P I find I still have child motivation to naturally wake my ass up at 6am on Christmas morning so how can you make everyday Christmas morning?
This has worked for me time and time again, it's about training yourself to create a new habit and rewarding yourself for committing to it each day. That, for me, is the best way to wake up earlier!

Do you struggle with getting up early? How have you overcome it? Tell me your story in the comments below!

Jun 12, 2013

Stressed & Overwhelmed: What To Do When Life Feels Like An Uphill Battle

Stressed & Overwhelmed: What To Do When Life Feels Like An Uphill Battle

Just before the weekend began, I was feeling a little flat on ideas for my blog and my new aspirations for a career in travel writing. I decided to head toward my favourite bloggers and online mentors for inspiration.

Within minutes my cup was full of love and I was bursting with ideas and all around goodness. But as I continued to explore and read many tools and concepts I started to feel myself getting drowsy, stressed and slightly overwhelmed.

What started out as a fun inspiration boost quickly turned into paralysis and confusion. I tried to write but too much information was running through my head. 'You have to do this, you have to do that. But what about that? How am I supposed to do this. I don't get it? But how do I incorporate this? I can't do it. I can't do this.'

These thoughts have occurred many a time recently so I decided to try things a little differently just to see if I'd get different results. After all Albert Einstein did say, "Doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is the definition of insanity." (click to tweet).

Needless to say, what I tried helped IMMENSELY and I know they'll work for you if you're stressed out and overwhelmed.


1 // Limit Your Addiction

It's true, sometimes too much of a good thing can turn into a painful, gruelling and overwhelming bad thing. Since I spent last year reading 51 personal development books I guess you could say I kind of got addicted to them.

But after a while my mind was turning into mush when I'd read one book saying you had to use affirmations or nothing works and another book completely contradicting the last book explaining why you shouldn't use affirmations. I wound up confused, not knowing what to do or believe or understand and I realized I just had to pull back on my 'personal development' addiction and choose only a select few books (like 3 or 4 that I enjoyed) because it was starting to drive me nuts.


2 // Take a Luxurious Break

Sometimes overwhelm can be a sign of working too hard or too much. When it hit me I knew that there was nothing else I could do but take a break... even though I tried to fight it.

Your body and mind are wise beyond your years, they know what they want and what they need. If you neglect their needs for too long they can take over and no matter how hard you try to stay "on form" you will be submitted into chilling out.

When I was forced to take a break I decided to milk the crap out of it. I made my favourite hot drink, Milo. I ran myself a super hot bubble bath with lavender bath salts, I put on some extremely relaxing music and melted away.

This took the stress away immediately and allowed me to feel at peace with myself. It was bliss.

Tina Su of Think Simple Now gives 8 extra awesome tips for overcoming overwhelm that you should definitely check out.


3 // Bless Nature With Your Presence

There are serious health benefits to spending time in nature, no wonder it's one of my favourite things to do. There's a big forest 10 minutes from my house so whenever I'm feeling like a caged animal, I will break out and take a long work in the forest.

It instantly boosts my vibe and also helps me center myself. I come back to the reality of the present moment my incessant mind chatter just melts away.

Sometimes it can be a little difficult to get out in nature due to weather or the fact you live in a concrete jungle. This green meditation music will help you to relax and also will make you feel like you're actually out in the forest.


4 // Do Something Super Duper Fun

I decided to go along with Scott to his inline hockey practise game. It was a reason to get out of the house and to be honest, avoid writing. To my surprise there just happened to be a bouncy castle set up at the rink.

Was it for kids birthday parties? Yes. Did I care? No. It was a freaking bouncy castle!

Once I got over worrying about whether I was too heavy to jump on it, I raced up and flipped into it. Then another flip and another and then pretty soon I was doing all types of acrobatics! I was having the time of my life with a bouncy castle and the thought of writing and brainstorming was nowhere to be seen.

Sometimes with all the brain mush happening you can get a little stuck for fun ideas. These two fabulous posts from The Simple Dollar and Tiny Buddha on 50 ways to have fun by yourself and 50 creative & cheap ways to have will help you with all the ideas you need.


5 // For Serious Overwhelm - Take a Nap

Sometimes we can be so overwhelmed it completely ruins our mood and day. We can almost feel paralyzed. In fact I had that exact feeling when trying to write this post. I just could not get started.

I felt the drowsiness set in and so I decided to give in and take a nap. When I woke, I was literally pumped with clarity and focus and was able to write this post immediately.

There are many benefits to taking naps, when I was in Italy I learned very quickly how the Italians like to use the power of napping to enhance their productivity and clear headedness. I found it difficult to just relax and take pleasure in doing nothing but it didn't take me long to adapt and I found that I had more energy and was 'switched on' most of the time.

But us westerners tend to slate it as a waste of time or believe it's 'slacking off' and push ourselves to our limits to earn that extra buck or have everything 'perfect'. Seems like a pointless exertion of energy really.

If things are seriously stressful and you happen to have some free time, take a nap and reset yourself. You'll wake up feeling so much better and possibly even more clear headed.

In the comments below, I would love for you to tell me your best stressed & overwhelmed tip. What do you do to help yourself calm down, gain clarity or just feel at ease? What tips are you going to tke from this post to help you do that?
 
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