How Marie Forleo "Humiliated" Me

It was the lowest point in my life.

I was broke, jobless and living at home with my Mother.

Scarcity had wriggled it's way into the depths of my subconscious and I could feel it's claws tightening it's grip.

I didn't know what to do. I was helpless. I felt like less of a person because I had no purpose, no income, no connection to anyone, nothing. I was making mini droplets of income through my blog at the time - $20 here, $80 there - but even then it seemed like everyone around me had wrapped a scarcity bag around their heads too.

There was one day I remember fondly where I needed a haircut - a simple $20 haircut - and I couldn't afford it.

And something in me snapped.

I was furious.

Was this really all there was to my life?

Was this it?

I needed help. I needed an answer. And I needed it now.

I couldn't afford to work with a coach or buy any books, so out of sheer gall (and suffering) all I could think of to do was ask Marie Forleo.

And she came back with this..

I remember that fateful day like it was yesterday. I had just woken, dried drool on my cheek, hair like I'd combed it with a cactus.

Opening the email I remember thinking "Oh, a money post from Marie yuss!".  I clicked through to the post and let the video play.

As per usual she had her quirky little intro, which what makes me (and I'm sure everyone else) connect with her so much more. And then moved into the readers question.

And that's when I heard my name.

My heart stopped.

"It's.. my.. question." I said, dumbfounded.

Marie continued reading.

I slinked further and further under my duvet, eyes bulging, heart in my throat.

I felt like this.

As she moved through the video with her advice - which by the way I did NOT pay any attention to because HOLY SHIT MARIE FORLEO ANSWERED MY QUESTION!!!!!! - a sudden wave of humiliation washed over me.

I felt seen.

Exposed.

Vulnerable.

Like I'd just lead myself to a public slaughtering of some sort. GoT style.

"What are people going to think of me? What if my ex from 8 years ago sees this!? What if my horrid maths teacher from 6th form sees this? Oh god, what if my friends see this!? WHAT IF MY FAMILY SEES THIS!?!?! IDIOT! The entire world now knows about my 'situation'! How stupid were you to ask this question publicly! This is worse than that time you fell off stage at the school assembly!"

I was a goner to my "victim mode".

But there was nothing I could do, it was already done. I cringed. I squirmed. I felt like this guy at 2:20. And yet there was still nothing I could do. Nothing but accept it and move forward.. somehow.

Eventually I was able to watch the whole video through and actually retain the information that Marie had given - which I use a lot of in my day to day practice!

And now? I go back to that video every now and then to check in with where I'm at. I still cringe at moments, but each time I do watch it I feel better and better about it. And amazingly (and ironically) enough Marie was able to help me realize something extremely important after I'd actually posted this post..

How amazing is that?

Many, many lessons have come from this one small act of courage (and pain). And yes, I still feel seen. Yes, it still makes me squirm. But if this has helped at least one person change their relationship with money in a positive way, at the sake of my "ego", then that is worth the world to me.

Elise xo

P.S - Getting some mega facebook love over here!

An Amusing Lesson on Defining My Ideal Day

She looked me up and down as if I had emerged out of the eighteenth century a orphaned pick-pocket.



"Are you wanting to eat here?" she asked, with a puzzled expression and a hint of condescension in her tone.


After three three hours of hiking around the island, with chunks of clay stuck to my shoes, dried sweat-now-salt layered on my face and an outfit of walking tights and a fleece sweater, I wasn't exactly dressed for lunch in a hoity-toity restaurant.


"Yes please!" I said, ignoring her subtle condemnatory glare.


I found my table outside in the sun, overlooking the beach.


After I had ordered I contemplated the interaction that had just happened.


Taking a sip of my water I surveyed the restaurant.


'Weird', I thought. 'There's no one here but retired people and tourists. It was the same yesterday at the other restaurant'.


Thinking nothing of it, I went back to my view and sat there soaking in the sun.


Let's pause there for a moment.

You've more than likely heard of the 'ideal day' exercise.

Well, whenever I've tried to imagine and feel what my days would be like once I ran my own 6-figure business it would go something like this - I'd wake early, do yoga, drink green juice, work with my clients, go shopping or meet a friend for lunch, workout in the afternoon, prepare gourmet dinners, drink wine and relax in the evening - and every single time I imagined that it felt overwhelming, it felt crippling, it felt unsuitable.


I found it impossible to imagine the lifestyle I'd be living once I was wealthy because 1) I'd never experienced it before and 2) I believed I would be a completely different person.


'Wait a minute.' My mind was back on the restaurant observation.


'It's midday on a Tuesday. Everyone is at work right now.'


Then it hit me.


Everyone is literally at work except for the retired and the tourists. Even prissy waitress lady in her tight fitted knit dress and tan leather boots - which actually looks really lovely, BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT.


No one else is on their time right now, except for the retired, the tourists and me!


*LIGHTBULB*


This is it. This is exactly what I want. This is my ideal day.


Enjoying a Tuesday afternoon on my time. Letting uppity waitresses hover in the corner trying to figure me out. Eating vanilla pancakes with bacon and freshly squeezed orange juice. Working on my 5-figure business from my phone. Wearing sweat infused workout gear and shoes riddled with mud.


This is my ideal day.


And it feels so, me.


When getting into business, most of us believe we're going to become this amazing 2.0 version of ourselves and do these incredible things that we don't do right now.


And I really gotta cut the shit and say, you'll be petrified bone-dust before that happens.


Get real with yourself. Take the exercise a step further, and off the paper. Take the day off work and feel-out what you'd really like to do. Take actual action. Because I guarantee you, the imaginary ideal day you've written on paper is not going to match what you really want to do once you have the time!


Now it's your turn! Tell us below what your *real* ideal day in your business is?



Elise


P.S - this is the view from the restaurant.. ;)

How to Run a Rampage of Appreciation for Money

Tomorrow I delete myself from the world... for four days.

No technology.

No distractions.

No human contact.

And a part of what I'll be doing while I'm away - since I'm gonna have sooooooo much god damn time on my hands - is to get back into practising rampages of appreciation.

Back in 2010, when I was a total groupie to Abraham Hicks, I used to recite the money rampage below every single day.

At first I felt like a complete nut case dork, but each day that I did it I noticed I started to feel better and believe it just a little bit more. It didn't seem like I had been reciting the rampage all that long when exciting things started manifesting into my life.


Winning a trip to New York to meet Taylor Swift, being showered with gifts from people, getting a brand new car and a new job without having to interview etc..


The thing about building a money mindset is you've got to try everything to figure out what works for you.


So for today, use this rampage:

Rampage of Appreciation for Money

"I’ll bet there are many people who, at one time, were standing financially about where I am. Who broke through this, and found a stream of abundance. And I can feel the stream of abundance approaching me, because things that have never happened to me before are beginning to show up.

So, I know my vibration around money is improving. And, there’s no end to what that improvement will be. And it’s gonna be fun for me over the next days to watch different evidences showing me I’m really sniffing out the trail of abundance.

And, I accept that 99% of every creation is complete before I see any physical evidence, so it’s alright if it doesn’t flow right into my hands this red hot minute. I can be patient here a little bit. 

I’ve learned to settle in here and I’m alright in waiting for this. And I’m actually beginning to feel my impatience turning to a little bit of eagerness. It’s going to be exciting to watch how the Universe displays to me, in a way that is meaningful, where I can consciously recognise that my energy is shifting. 

And, I can feel that even in this conversation that I’m having with myself that I’m moving systematically into that Stream of money that I’m wanting. And I’m not asking for it to come all at once. Although it can. I’m asking that it come through my crack of least resistance, which I’m working on right now. And it’s exciting to me to anticipate the adventure, and the surprises, and the ways in which it will flow.

And, I’m appreciating already my knowledge about my own guidance system. I am appreciating my understanding of the Law of Attraction. And I am appreciating the people that are showing, in a demonstrating way, that abundance can flow into their experiences. And I am looking forward to meeting people who can tell me their stories about how they were in desperate straits not very long ago and money began to flow. And I like hearing from them, especially the part where they say, ‘I can’t believe that it was always there for me’, or I have the sensation of, ‘Where have you been all along.’ 

In other words, it’s an interesting thing to be on one side of the manifestation one moment, and on the other side of the manifestation in the other moment. And I’m looking forward to breaking through that.

But, in the mean time, I’m happy to be on this side of the manifestation because I’m feeling better, and better, and better. I’ve improved my life in so many different ways. And I’m eager to begin to see the stream of money flow into my experience. 

I know that I’m worthy of it. That’s not what the question is. I know, now, that I’ve just been a little bit vibrationally out of whack. And I can feel in conversations I’m having with myself, like this, are bringing me vibrationally into alignment. I’m understanding that my work is this emotional journey. It’s not about getting out there and beating the pavement. It’s not about finding the vortex – the specific vortex – through which the money will flow. I don’t want only one specific vortex. I want many vortexes to open. I want to be the focal point, where enormous sums of money begin to flow into my experience.

I have activated my imagination. There is no end to my ideas of what I will do with this stream of money. It’s great fun! I love the idea of playing the game where I’m spending the money. I love the sensation of the money being in my pocket! And I love the sensation of expressing it out there in the Universe. And I love the economy that I benefit as I hire one more to do one more thing, or as I buy one more thing and bring it home. But most of all, I enjoy the sensation of Freedom! And it’s interesting to note that I am having that sensation of freedom right now even though my dollars have not changed at all in this moment! 

I’ve broken through the emotional journey. I can feel that I’ve cleaned up my vibration. I’m much closer. Maybe 70% of that 99.99 of that percentage is in place. I’m willing to play this game! Who wouldn’t want to play this game! It’s exhilarating to play this game! It’s life-giving to play this game. I could play this game all day, every day! Wouldn’t it be nice if I have that? Won’t it be nice if I have that? Won’t it be nice if I have that? Wouldn’t it be nice if I have that?

I feel such appreciation of the abundance that’s flowing into my experience. There is abundance that’s coming to me in so many ways. I have the abundance of clarity. I have the abundance of stamina. I have the abundance of health. I have the abundance of friends. I have the abundance of so many things. And now the Universe is getting ready to give me the abundance of dollars. The abundance of being able to prove to myself that I am in alignment of all that I want and that it is true that there is NOTHING that I cannot BE, or DO, or HAVE!

That’s what I want most of all, I say to the Universe! I want personal acknowledgment that there is nothing that I cannot Be, or Do, or Have. And money is part of it. Money might even be a big part of it. I can feel money on it’s way to me. And I am grateful for it even as it begins to flow and I am proud of myself for the work I am doing. And I am eager to improve where I am. And I am Happy where I am.

I am doing very well. I have come so far. I’m proud of where I am. I know the Universe sees me as I am. I can get on these rampages any time I want to. I am going to work on these rampages more and more, because they just feel so darn good. In fact, in a rampage like this, whether the money comes or not, in this red hot minute, is no big issue to me. I know it’s coming. I’m not even wondering if it’s coming. I’m not hoping that it’s coming. I’m not even believing that it’s coming. I know that it’s coming. It’s just a matter of time. NO! It’s not even a matter of time. It’s just a matter of my alignment with what I want. And it’s alright that I want it. The Time Space reality has given me the ability to discern it. I’ve launched rockets of desire and they’re over there pulsing with me. And Source and Inner Being are in alignment with them saying, “Come this way. Come this way. Come this way. Come this way. Come this way. Come this way.” And I can tell by the thoughts that I’m thinking right now I have come that way! I’m there! I’m there vibrationally and, NOW, let the money roll in!"



Now it's your turn: let me see your rampage of appreciation!

Elise xo

P.S - 39 money affirmations

39 Of My Favourite Money Affirmations (That Work!)

Have you ever experimented with money affirmations? Did you find them ineffective? Maybe even a little wanky? Did you find it hard to believe them? Or were you the opposite end, did you find them super effective? Really powerful and easy to believe?

Whatever your thoughts, you can't deny that there is some amazing energy that hangs around money manifestation affirmations, or affirmations in general.

My favourite lady, Oprah, said that for her entire life she had been using affirmations without really knowing it. She said that because of the affirmations she recited in her mind over and over again, she created the life she has now. Which is pretty amazing right?!

Below are 30 money affirmations I used on a consistent basis to bring more money into my life (which by the way, absolutely work!). The only different now is that I now incorporate my affirmations into my morning mindset work, and that runs a little differently than these affirmations (but that's another post for later!). So for now, enjoy these brilliantly effective money manifestation affirmations!

MY 39 FAVOURITE MONEY AFFIRMATIONS

• I am excited about receiving more money. 
• I intend to allow money to flow easily to me. 
• Shortage and scarcity are illusions of the ego. 
• I invite more money to come to me daily. 
• I am so grateful for the ability to manifest money when I want it. 
• I am creating an abundant future with my thoughts today. 
• I am so grateful for the opportunity to create something better. 
• I love the freedom that comes with financial abundance. 
• I think only positive thoughts about money. 
• Money is being drawn to me in every moment. 
• Money flows easily to me in every moment. 
• I am choosing better thoughts about money right now. 
• I am healing my relationship with money. 
• Having money makes me feel calm and confident. 
• I can tune into the essence of abundance anytime I want. 
• When I focus on abundance, I feel abundant. 
• The universe leads me to great opportunities. 
• I deserve to have plenty of money. 
• I choose to stay focused on abundance no matter what. 
• I choose to focus on joy and money flows. 
• I am actively looking for expressions of abundance today. 
• Money flows easily to me when I stay detached and open. 
• I visualize myself having money, and I receive more money. 
• I am relaxing into greater abundance today. 
• I choose to feel wealthy right now. 
• I give myself permission to be abundant in every way. 
• I am expanding into greater abundance now. 
• More money is lining up for me right this minute. 
• I love money and money loves me. 
• I work in partnership with the universe to create abundance. 
• I am organized and responsible with money. 
• When I feel good, I am open to money and abundance. 
• I am easily creating more money and abundance. 
• I can create as much abundance as I want, starting now. 
• Money comes to me in fun, easy and surprising ways! 
• When I feel good about money, I attract it. 
• Money is drawn to me when I feel happy. 
• I always have more than enough for everything I need. 
• Financial well-being is my new reality.

Use these money affirmations as often as you can. Pick a couple that resonate with you and use them. They are powerful, and when teamed with a ton of positive energy, they don't just become money manifestation affirmations but physical manifestations!

Do you have a money affirmation that works really well for you? Share yours below!


Elise xo

P.S - my 6 tips on how to manifest money now

Why do you want to be rich?

I'm lying here in bed feeling sorry for myself. 

My bedside table engulfed with vicks, throat lozenges and remnants of ginger & lemon tea.

After you've met your sleep quota for the rest of the year, there's not much else to do but twiddle your thumbs - and shop online.

I'll admit it, online shopping is my guilty pleasure when bed ridden.

Today things got pretty heated  - between hawking up a lung & spreading mucous everywhere - when I couldn't decide whether to get the boho swing dress or the aztec culottes.

Why the hell couldn't I just have both!?

Simple: My personal spending comfort zone

See, the thing is. No matter how hard you work at busting through your money blocks, you're always going to hit another limit you've got to work through.

When I find myself hitting that wall, one thing I do is remind myself why I want to smash through it in the first place.

I do that by reaffirming why I want to be rich.

Why I Want To Be Rich

• Give my Mum an extremely comfortable retirement
• Live a laid back luxurious lifestyle with Scott (we love heat & afternoon naps)
• Spend more quality time with family and friends
• Help people to bring more money into their lives
• Start doing philanthropic work

Why Do You Want To Be Rich?

Do you want to live a luxurious lifestyle? Maybe spend a year traveling through Europe? Do you want to help the world with your skills? Eat at nice restaurants? Maybe you’re craving a 7-figure business, or a swoon-worthy wardrobe?

Whatever it is, tell me below why you want to be rich - make it public!

(And if you want a head start, join The 100k Experiment!)


Elise x


P.S - how to upgrade your money mindset